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Relationship relativity

I don’t tell people what they want to hear, but what they need to hear. If you want someone to stroke your ego and make you feel better, then you have your other friends for that. I can’t be that kind of friend because I’m not that kind of person.

– A conversation many moons ago

Sometimes people wonder what my “secret” is. How I can be the way I “am” 1 and it’s not something positive from what I heard but still somehow have everything in order. If you take a random group sample of anyone, and put me in that lineup… chances are, I would be the one with the most positive disposition of the lot. I would probably have just the same amount of “issues” as the next guy, but I’m quite confident that I’m one of those who are better equipped to handle the emotional stress. Why is that?

I actually wanted to make a post entitled “A manual to my life” – where I break-down all the subsystems of how I discern, etc. What weights do I use to decide if I should be practical or idealistic. Stuff like that. But just like any human being, apparently it would take forever to cover everything 2 considering how thorough I tend to be So I guess for this post, I’ll just focus on some relationship stuff. Here’s my take on some questions that people have asked me – as well as some other concepts. And you should pay attention to how I treat the issues when I discuss them… it should give you a glimpse of how I “rationalize” things… and perhaps make you decide that should I give my opinion on the matter, if it’s worth any salt or not. Read More

Notes

Notes
⇡1 and it’s not something positive from what I heard
⇡2 considering how thorough I tend to be
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If the women only tried…

Sexes split over one night stands

Many women are left unhappy in the aftermath of casual sexual encounters, a survey has revealed.

Thank God for an article like this, I’ll finally get to say something I’ve come to realize – that I could never bring up out of the blue.

While the article obviously focuses on one-night-stands, I personally have noticed something significant and worthy of mention as far as heterosexual relationships go. I encompasses most of (if not all) relationship issues a woman may experience – that even the more complex/controversial issues, like in the article, are merely subsets.

I tried synthesizing different opinions/perspectives of various women I’ve had deep conversations with regarding relationship issues they were having. I would probably say this would be a great follow up to a post I wrote 3 years ago, which a friend of mine reminded me of because of its “accuracy” (she was a woman by the way so shut up)

Before I proceed, I feel compelled to remind everyone that while there may be exceptions, we all know most issues, or at least issues being blown out of proportion, are almost always the woman’s doing. If you’re a woman and disagree, feel free to drop me a line and counter this claim. But before going off your handle, at least try to hear why I think this is the case.

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Mapatulan nga…

Jowi posted something interesting in her blog, which I will have to disagree with to a certain extent. I’ve commented on it, but I thought instead of editing myself with follow up replies (since LJ doesn’t seem to have a comment-edit feature) I’ll just state my argument here.

Read the post first before looking below, because I will assume you have absorbed it. Read More