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Relationship relativity

I don’t tell people what they want to hear, but what they need to hear. If you want someone to stroke your ego and make you feel better, then you have your other friends for that. I can’t be that kind of friend because I’m not that kind of person.

– A conversation many moons ago

Sometimes people wonder what my “secret” is. How I can be the way I “am” 1 and it’s not something positive from what I heard but still somehow have everything in order. If you take a random group sample of anyone, and put me in that lineup… chances are, I would be the one with the most positive disposition of the lot. I would probably have just the same amount of “issues” as the next guy, but I’m quite confident that I’m one of those who are better equipped to handle the emotional stress. Why is that?

I actually wanted to make a post entitled “A manual to my life” – where I break-down all the subsystems of how I discern, etc. What weights do I use to decide if I should be practical or idealistic. Stuff like that. But just like any human being, apparently it would take forever to cover everything 2 considering how thorough I tend to be So I guess for this post, I’ll just focus on some relationship stuff. Here’s my take on some questions that people have asked me – as well as some other concepts. And you should pay attention to how I treat the issues when I discuss them… it should give you a glimpse of how I “rationalize” things… and perhaps make you decide that should I give my opinion on the matter, if it’s worth any salt or not. Read More

Notes

Notes
⇡1 and it’s not something positive from what I heard
⇡2 considering how thorough I tend to be
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Outside looking in

I know it’s none of my business, but I just couldn’t resist… these issues are just so juicy! Hahahaha.

I will exercise my innate nature of being an asshole and weigh in on something. Because believe it or not… I may be an asshole, but I’m an asshole who’s got his head on straighter than most folks.

Plus, I really hate it when I see someone being wrongly villified. I never was the type of person who would defend myself when a woman would wrongly accuse me of something; 1 I would always trust that people who do matter (or people who were smart enough) to know if it was the truth or not… and it has worked pretty well for me as my friends are people I would take bullets for so I guess this is my way of venting my frustrations; by trying to defend others who are in a similar situation. And I’ve had a bunch of people, who I’m not particularly close to, attest to the fact that I will stick out my neck for them if I think they’re being unjustly marginalized. Hell, I even defended a person I didn’t really know while discussing a totally different subject matter. (check the few paragraphs under the Subjectivity header)

If the issue had simply died down and both parties simply let bygones be bygones that would be fine, but from what I’ve been hearing, one is constantly yammering about being a victim, when in reality they have inflicted so much more pain on the other person.

So, (assuming that this will even make it to the people in question) here goes… Read More

Notes

Notes
⇡1 I would always trust that people who do matter (or people who were smart enough) to know if it was the truth or not… and it has worked pretty well for me as my friends are people I would take bullets for
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Color Theory

I’ve been racking my brains trying to come up with a “reasonable” way of presenting how liberals differ from conservatives without resorting to the arrogant, presumptuous “we know more, because we experience more” argument.

I decided to write this “piece” because for one, I like these cerebral sorts of arguments. If you look at my past posts about similar topics (politics, religion, you name it), I try to exhaustively explain my thought process – because everything has a context, and if you are aware of the context, it’s easier to “understand.”

Before we begin, I’d like to invite you to watch the TED video I posted in the past – which discusses conservatives and liberals – and their dynamics in a society.

Both sides certainly have to exhibit a certain degree responsibility when interacting with the other – however, I will have to be honest in saying that from my observations, it’s always a matter of our side having to “water down” our actions. As far as I have seen, there has never been a case where the other side had to “compromise.” If ever they “did,” it was not nearly as close to the degree we’ve always had to exert. I guess such is the fate of minorities.

What bothers me though, is that even the mere “acceptance of things as they are” seems to be so far from what they are willing to do. Either we step in line with their views, or we are labeled as destructive forces in any social structure.

As such, I personally believe there should be a limit as to how far our side has to “bend” for the other – because God knows we’ve been bending enough. We bend any more and we would not be true to ourselves… we can’t have that now can we?

There is so much more we are capable of doing to truly be “fulfilled,” but we keep that in check because we know we’re in the minority. It would’ve been good if people simply accepted others as they were – lock stock and barrel. It would’ve been good to recognize that each individual has his or her own way of seeing/dealing with life. And while each of us are broken in our own way, each one of us also has something valuable to contribute – and that’s precisely because of who were are… not who we “try” or “want” or “ought” to be.

You may ask me why I’m so firm in my resolve – a resolve that, by conservative standards, may very well damn my soul to hell (an exaggeration of course, but you get the picture). The answer isn’t that complex at all, and I will attempt to show you in the form of a photograph. Read More

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More reasons why I love House

Finally got to start watching the 5th season of House. Mik transferred some episodes to my USB drive while we were on our Bicol trip.

I was amazed by the first episode, as it was a fucking goldmine of quotable quotes!

I also enjoyed seeing House in a somewhat agitated state. Normally you see him put people down by embarrassing them, but always in the form of witty humor. But there were so many gems in this episode where he just downright ran over people without giving a second thought about what they felt (like how he treated 13). It was almost as if he was finally saying “Get over yourself and realize the facts of life and fucking deal with it – don’t expect the rest of us to feel sympathy for your plight because we’ve got problems of our own.” Read More