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Relationship relativity

I don’t tell people what they want to hear, but what they need to hear. If you want someone to stroke your ego and make you feel better, then you have your other friends for that. I can’t be that kind of friend because I’m not that kind of person.

– A conversation many moons ago

Sometimes people wonder what my “secret” is. How I can be the way I “am” 1 and it’s not something positive from what I heard but still somehow have everything in order. If you take a random group sample of anyone, and put me in that lineup… chances are, I would be the one with the most positive disposition of the lot. I would probably have just the same amount of “issues” as the next guy, but I’m quite confident that I’m one of those who are better equipped to handle the emotional stress. Why is that?

I actually wanted to make a post entitled “A manual to my life” – where I break-down all the subsystems of how I discern, etc. What weights do I use to decide if I should be practical or idealistic. Stuff like that. But just like any human being, apparently it would take forever to cover everything 2 considering how thorough I tend to be So I guess for this post, I’ll just focus on some relationship stuff. Here’s my take on some questions that people have asked me – as well as some other concepts. And you should pay attention to how I treat the issues when I discuss them… it should give you a glimpse of how I “rationalize” things… and perhaps make you decide that should I give my opinion on the matter, if it’s worth any salt or not. Read More

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⇡1 and it’s not something positive from what I heard
⇡2 considering how thorough I tend to be
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When divine and human love collide

I know this isn’t really newsworthy, but I gotta tell you, stories like this really break my heart. Anyone who really knows me, knows I have a “pusong mamon” when it comes to stuff like this. I [literally] have cried over shows/movies that you never would have thought a person could cry over; it’s one of things about me that my friends and family make fun of.

So I’m going to just say it; after reading this, I fucking cried. I imagine being in that man’s shoes; being up against God in that context – how do you win? How could you win?

How could you even begin to be happy for the “happiness” of someone you love when in a situation like that? Losing someone that’s directly tied to your own happiness – It just seems so unfair even if it’s really not. How could God be such a dick and let stuff like this happen, right? When I think about the futility of it all, how could I not cry?

I feel for you bro, I’m hoping against hope that God gives her back to you. Oh, and I can’t even begin to fathom how much it would suck if it turned out there wasn’t a God.

(sniff)

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The Science of Love

Another winning talk from TED.

What can I say, I’m such a geek 1 Actually “nerd” would be the more appropriate term for this particular instance.… in love. Talks like this/these are a perfect marriage of my thought processes; the irrational discussed rationally.

Helen Fisher: The brain in love

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⇡1 Actually “nerd” would be the more appropriate term for this particular instance.
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After this, I will forever hold my peace

Last na to.

There’s been a lot of hullabaloo recently, which was related to the issue in my past post.

I know I shouldn’t be even wasting my time on it anymore, because quite frankly it isn’t affecting me or my situation. I may be stepping down one level as a person by even addressing the issue, but I really think I should say this and forever hold my peace… until I get to talk to the guy personally. Hell, I might end up just stating everything here, and save me the time.

Sa lahat ng mga kaibigan ko na nagsabi na wag ko na patulan… patawarin ninyo ako 😉 di ko na matiis eh.

As usual, no names will be involved. I’m not a person who “destroys” reputations behind their backs (or in any way for that matter)… which is hardly the courtesy I’ve been extended. Then again, I didn’t deserve such a courtesy in the first place, so at least it would be reasonable to assume that I’ve already taken enough “flak” to merit as punishment for my actions…

Now we’re even 😉

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For all its worth

I wrote this blog draft before, but never got to post it. This was during the time when everything started going right for me.

I remember using this idea to comfort someone in the BP forums before.

One person’s happiness is another person’s loss. So whenever we suffer, just try to think that somehow, in the cosmic balance, God has made good use of your “sacrifice credits” to uplift someone else.

On that note… whoever is feeling down right now… I am forever grateful for your sacrifice.

It would’ve been a nice brief, cryptic, meaningful post then… in fact, for all intents and purposes, it still is.

I just felt compelled to mention it now because unfortunately, the person who’s “down” right now seems to be directly affected by these same events. I look and see the irony, futility, and [the probable] insensitivity in sharing this “idea of comfort.” And that gives me a heavy heart 🙁

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