{"id":379,"date":"2005-10-04T08:35:50","date_gmt":"2005-10-04T00:35:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nargalzius.com\/blog2\/http:\/www.nargalzius.com\/blog2\/archives\/2005\/10\/2005_10_04_0835.php"},"modified":"2005-10-04T08:35:50","modified_gmt":"2005-10-04T00:35:50","slug":"so-help-us-god","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/archives\/2005\/10\/04\/so-help-us-god","title":{"rendered":"…so help us God"},"content":{"rendered":"

I was supposed to comment on Jowi’s blog entry<\/a> (hence the title), but I noticed that I was quoting and writing too much already. So I decided to just post my answer here hahaha.<\/p>\n

It’s also a good topic actually because there aren’t any straight right or wrong answers, and would really depend on the situation, time, and the people involved at that particular moment.<\/p>\n\n

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but i believe that people who truly care for each other must be able to talk about things that are truly important even if they might be uncomfortable to talk about…<\/p>\n

… i strongly believe that if a person genuinely cares for another, he or she will point out matters that are disagreeable even when there is a possibility of someone getting hurt, if he or she knows that giving it a shot will help the person somehow (or even greatly).<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I guess this is the part where I put in my obligatory I-beg-to-disagree<\/em> statement. And notice that considering the personal situation I’m in, I should be actually agreeing<\/em> with the statement \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

It really depends on the person and the issue, it doesn’t matter how close you are or how many fights you had with them. Plus, the “issue” in question, I would imagine, was extremely sensitive. Without expounding, I don’t have to tell you that if I were in that particular situation (as B), I don’t think anybody<\/em> would be welcome to prod into a subject that I myself was struggling with (and take note that it’s present progressive<\/em> hehehe).<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, its something we can never relate to (since we aren’t<\/em> like that), so it would be unfair to think the person was unreasonable in reacting that way. Sure, he may have answered, but what do you do if you’re a fairly docile person who is cornered (which I think B is and was)? He answered because he was cornered to do so, and was polite about it because he was [probably] caught off guard, or that he simply wasn’t the confrontational type. That pretty much sums everything up IMHO.<\/p>\n

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…”you really have a way of telling me what’s wrong with me and making me see the ugliest realities in my life without me hating you for it. you’re really one of the most beautiful people i know.”<\/em><\/p>\n

…i told him jokingly, “where were you 5 years ago?”<\/em> but really, if he told me those things 5 years ago, things would have been a lot different. i would’ve made more sensible decisions.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

This would support the whole depends-on-the-people<\/em> involved thing. The fact that you weren’t insulted, wasn’t because he “had a way of telling,” but simply because it was him \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

As far as the 5 years ago thingie goes, you say that you would’ve made more sensible decisions. I think it would be the other way around. I think you’d probably be capable of doing what B did, if what was said, was said 5 years ago. Because you were in love with the person, no matter how sincere the advise, the fact that it was a direct attack to someone you love(d) would definitely piss you off. I’d probably feel and act the same way.<\/p>\n

I recall you mentioning that your best friend T agreed with your mom’s views at some point – which pissed you off. There’s the answer right there. If you needed more proof, then I’d state your Mom as the prime example.<\/em> Parents are the only people who are sure<\/strong> to be looking out for our well being (you can’t get anymore sincere<\/strong> than that), and also the people who also get on our nerves BIG TIME… especially if they try meddling in our affairs \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

And what a convenient segue to meddling hahaha. I guess I don’t have to repeat my stand. I don’t like meddling – wether it’s right or wrong unless<\/em> it’s a life or\/and death situation. But as far as experience and character development are concerned, people learn better if<\/em> and after<\/em> they fall.<\/strong> No matter what your intentions, it’s better to let life take its course \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

Parang si P<\/em> and g<\/em>: alam naman ng lahat na wala na talaga si g<\/em> sa mata ko. Pero as much as I told her that I don’t like g,<\/em> I’m still leaving that decision to her (like I have a choice). If they get back together, I will not even keep my eye on g,<\/em> he’s free to do what he wants to do… but make no mistake that when<\/em> the time comes that he does hurt her, there will<\/strong> be retribution.<\/p>\n

How I treat g<\/em> isn’t because I want to dissuade him, or because I’m protective of P<\/em> per se. It’s simply because g<\/em> is beneath me – and I do not wish to consort with such people… it’s an utter waste of time to involve myself with anything that has to do with him.<\/p>\n

But that’s neither here nor there – I’m not out to dedicate my time to make sure the the nails in the coffin are put in place, nor am I here to kill a zombie if it so chooses to come back (which it is). What they do, and how it turns out is up to them. But babalik at babalik<\/em> yung point ko na just let life take its course… if that’s how P<\/em> is gonna learn, then so be it. It already happened before with j,<\/em> so maybe a couple more falls will set her straight.<\/p>\n

But then again, I was always an “experience over sensibility” type of guy.<\/p>\n

I guess it depends talga<\/em> no? hehehehe.<\/p>\n

NOTE: In case people from DWTL read this:<\/strong>\nThis is a totally separate issue ok?\nP, g,<\/em> and j<\/em> are initials<\/strong> of the people involved, so obviously these aren’t<\/strong> the people from my personal “issue” (which really isn’t an issue anymore last I heard)<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I was supposed to comment on Jowi’s blog entry (hence the title), but I noticed that I was quoting and writing too much already. So I decided to just post my answer here hahaha. It’s also a good topic actually because there aren’t any straight right or wrong answers, and would really depend on the …

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