{"id":347,"date":"2005-08-12T01:44:50","date_gmt":"2005-08-11T17:44:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nargalzius.com\/blog2\/http:\/www.nargalzius.com\/blog2\/archives\/2005\/08\/2005_08_12_0144.php"},"modified":"2005-08-12T01:44:50","modified_gmt":"2005-08-11T17:44:50","slug":"mapatulan-nga","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/archives\/2005\/08\/12\/mapatulan-nga","title":{"rendered":"Mapatulan nga…"},"content":{"rendered":"

Jowi<\/a> posted something interesting<\/a> in her blog, which I will have to disagree with to a certain extent. I’ve commented on it, but I thought instead of editing myself with follow up replies (since LJ doesn’t seem to have a comment-edit feature) I’ll just state my argument here.<\/p>\n

Read the post first before looking below, because I will assume you have absorbed it.I mentioned that we’re only 2x worse than women since the time\/money aspect cannot<\/strong> be applied to us. The thing is, since they included<\/em> themselves (women) in our<\/em> equation, this should mean that we are within our rights to include ourselves<\/em> to theirs. I mean women need men as much as men need women; that’s the whole idea of relationships, else there would be no argument to begin with… that, and there would be no heterosexuals in the world \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

So that alone, will put them a notch above us again hehehehe. But I’m not here to argue, about that. What I simply wanted to do is to explain why we can assert that they (women) take time<\/strong> and money<\/strong> (which makes most of them high maintenance) and we (men) do not.<\/p>\n

Of course there are exceptions (even in heterosexuals), and I’m not going to count them. But undeniable proof that they need it and we don’t is the fact that more often than not, girls<\/em> are the people with issues when we don’t spend enough time<\/strong> with them – now if the corollary were true, then there should be a lot of incidents where men fight with their women because the latter didn’t have time for them… which we all<\/em> know sounds rather silly (though there are<\/em> exceptions).<\/p>\n

Now another is the money part, women claim that they don’t need money… I actually agree with them to some extent. They in fact need only time.<\/em> Time and “excitement” that is, and the whole excitement part is the one that really entails the money. Again, easily proven by women who start fighting with us if we aren’t doing anything to make them feel special.<\/em><\/p>\n

So it’s more of being naive on their part, as they usually<\/em> are predisposed to living in some ideal world where no one was poor, and everyone could afford everything… so spending to please each other isn’t an issue to them. That, or the romantic world that money should be no object, and I’m sure stuff like this will forever be a man\/woman difference in perspective (depending on age of course). I simply live by the fact that when you finally have a family to support, love alone cannot feed them. And when they start bringing in the big guns talking about how men could spend on their hobbies and not their women. It is truly a guilt trip which is effective, but objectively, we buy our stuff, we do not ask you to buy them for us for the sake of the relationship, nor do we expect you to appreciate what we buy. And most importantly, it’s our<\/em> money!<\/p>\n

And while I am not<\/strong> saying that they shouldn’t<\/em> have such a mentality, I’m simply saying that we guys do not share this view, and it’s unfair for them to demand it of us. But all the same, I don’t think women are evil for thinking like that.<\/p>\n

Having said that, when they turn the tables on us and say stuff like “the spend for us also, etc. etc.” – that is true and I will not contest that. But we<\/em> know and they<\/em> know that we (guys) couldn’t care less if they bought us stuff or not. Because if we<\/em> want something, we do something about it.<\/strong> If they<\/em> want something, they want us<\/strong> to do something about it. Now while this is perfectly fine in a relationship, you can clearly see how differently men and women operate (men do stuff they want themselves, women want men to do stuff women want for them). And I just wanted to say is that we’re down with the pampering thing, but cut us some friggin’ slack willya!? Don’t be brattier than the “bratty disposition” 1 <\/sup><\/a>This is rather harsh I know, but I can’t quite articulate it. I simply meant that women, the same people who fight for their equality and independence, expect to be treated specially by men. Put in a pedestal if you will. Which, quite honestly, is a double standard if ever I’ve seen one.<\/span><\/span>