{"id":1019,"date":"2010-04-11T04:57:32","date_gmt":"2010-04-10T20:57:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nargalzius.com\/blog\/archives\/2010\/04\/11\/pride-and-prejudice\/"},"modified":"2010-04-11T04:57:32","modified_gmt":"2010-04-10T20:57:32","slug":"pride-and-prejudice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/archives\/2010\/04\/11\/pride-and-prejudice","title":{"rendered":"Pride and Prejudice"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m probably one of the most &#8220;patient&#8221; people a person could meet. And take note, when I say &#8220;patient,&#8221; I don&#8217;t mean it in the <em>delayed gratification<\/em> sort of sense &#8211; as I&#8217;m <strong>very impatient<\/strong> when it comes to that. What I mean is my <em>tolerance<\/em> <em>(pasensya)<\/em> for anything unfortunate &#8211; <em>usually<\/em> in the form of people and their <em>insufferable<\/em> dispositions. Even my own sister could vouch for this <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_1');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_1');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_1\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">1 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_1\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">At least she already had done it before<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_1').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_1', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script> <\/p>\n<p>I even remember Cris complaining that me &#8220;never&#8221; getting angry with her <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_2');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_2');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_2\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">2 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_2\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">We do fight, of course &#8211; but she still has yet to see how I can be when I&#8217;m &#8220;angry&#8221;<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_2').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_2', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script> was\/is a constant source of her &#8220;insecurities.&#8221; <em>Ika nga sa lahat ng &#8220;away&#8221; &#8211; ang pikon, laging talo<\/em> <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_3');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_3');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_3\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">3 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_3\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">I would challenge that argument, but for the most part, it is true.<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_3').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_3', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script> &#8211; and I guess on that front, I usually come out on top&#8230; <em>usually.<\/em> While I <em>do<\/em> have my share of &#8220;quirks&#8221; that are enough to eclipse that singular &#8220;plus&#8221; I seem to have, <em>that<\/em> plus has never been disputed &#8211; nor could be disproven even if someone tried.<\/p>\n<h1>Pride<\/h1>\n<p>I think this allows me to have the type of candor I have &#8211; because at the end of the day, after I&#8217;ve said my piece, there literally is no hard feelings\/grudges from my end. <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_4');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_4');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_4\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">4 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_4\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">At least to people who haven&#8217;t &#8220;crossed the line&#8221; &#8211; as I&#8217;ll explain later<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_4').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_4', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script> I noticed that this is something a lot of people have trouble with; that they don&#8217;t mean what they say. They say everything&#8217;s ok when it&#8217;s not. They say they feel this or that way when they really don&#8217;t. I, on the other hand, find it easier to just be frank about stuff as it gets a lot of the &#8220;weight&#8221; off on the onset &#8211; and makes it easier to &#8220;handle&#8221; the situation once the &#8220;air is cleared&#8221; as far as opinions\/expectations go.<\/p>\n<p>Anyways, what brings me to post about this? Read on if you&#8217;re interested.<!--more--><!-- \/\/ --><\/p>\n<h1>Disclaimer<\/h1>\n<p>So far, in my 30 years of existence there are 4 people that have put me &#8220;past my limit&#8221;&#8230; a state which ultimately ends up with me denying their very existence <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_5');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_5');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_5\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">5 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_5\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">At least, in the practical sense<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_5').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_5', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script> \ud83d\ude09 1 during high school, 1 a few years ago, and 2 &#8220;family members.&#8221; Isn&#8217;t it funny that after all this talk about being &#8220;tolerant,&#8221; I certainly seem to balance it out by my sheer lack of being able to forgive. Perhaps it just comes with the territory; perhaps the &#8220;forgiveness&#8221; was already being applied &#8211; constantly&#8230; and when I finally &#8220;snap&#8221; it is, quite literally, too late. Who knows!?<\/p>\n<h1>Digression<\/h1>\n<p>A small part of my urge to post about this is that I <em>heard<\/em> (i.e. someone had told me) that the second [person in my &#8220;blacklist&#8221;] had mentioned in their blog that they had &#8220;forgiven&#8221; me. All I could do was laugh&#8230; not because of any defense mechanism on my part, but simply because it was too funny to fathom. The last time I checked, it&#8217;s [meta]physically impossible to &#8220;forgive&#8221; someone <strong>you&#8217;ve<\/strong> wronged. So I was like <em>&#8220;funny, I didn&#8217;t realize I was in need of forgiveness &#8211; especially from THAT person.&#8221;<\/em> &#8211; <em>iba talaga,<\/em> I guess, <em>pag delusional ang tao.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>In any case, whatever rocks their boat or gets them to sleep better at night; more power to them I say! I don&#8217;t really care either way since they&#8217;re <em>dead<\/em> to me &#8211; so whatever improvement or degradation in their &#8220;lives&#8221; are of no consequence to mine at all <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_6');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_6');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_6\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">6 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_6\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">Though I have to admit, knowing if they&#8217;re suffering gives me that warm fuzzy feeling inside &#8211; but that&#8217;s just me being evil.<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_6').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_6', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script> &#8211; that, and I know something they don&#8217;t <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_7');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_7');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_7\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">7 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_7\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">Let&#8217;s just say that &#8220;friends&#8221; tend to be more honest with me than with them<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_7').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_7', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script> \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n<h1>The Real Reason<\/h1>\n<p>The <em>real<\/em> reason I posted, was while I was already &#8220;compartmentalizing&#8221; that [previous] aspect of my life as an &#8220;aside,&#8221; &#8211; the topic &#8220;tolerance\/patience&#8221; came back up while sorting out some files in the computer.<\/p>\n<p>As my <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nargalzius.com\/blog\/archives\/2010\/04\/08\/external-drive-fix-for-os-x-sl\">previous post<\/a> suggested, I&#8217;ve upgraded the OSes in my main machine, and I&#8217;ve decided to start &#8220;cleaning&#8221; up a lot of unsorted files I just dumped into the Drobo. I came across some &#8220;log&#8221; I [apparently] kept through the years, that file outlined an issue and the steps I, and the other party had taken to deal with a certain issue. It looked like it was made in preparation to go after someone&#8217;s arse publicly (and thankfully didn&#8217;t get to that point, but still).<\/p>\n<p>The issue was a simple one: I used to have a Klipsch 5.1 system which conked out right after warranty. At that time, I was &#8220;active&#8221; in a computer buy &#38; sell community called <a href=\"http:\/\/www.tipidpc.com\">TipidPC.com<\/a> &#8211; and they had a member that had good ratings of being able to repair various electrically damaged stuff. The testimonials clearly stated that he could even repair motherboards, which was no joke. So naturally I decided to have my system repaired there. And thus, started <em>another<\/em> &#8220;test of patience.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The story\/log can be read <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nargalzius.com\/f\/p\/download.php?file=http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/downloads\/hyperviper.txt\">here.<\/a> Take note, this was written probably in <strong>December 2005<\/strong> &#8211; and as you noticed from the beginning statements that the issue started <em>way before<\/em> then. In case you didn&#8217;t read it, long story short; it never got repaired, and was returned. It&#8217;s also worth mentioning that ultimately <em>that<\/em> person wasn&#8217;t added to my &#8220;blacklist&#8221; &#8211; not that it matters, since I never really make lasting ties with anyone in the TipidPC community &#8211; why should anyone? It&#8217;s a <em>service<\/em> site &#8211; so it&#8217;s impersonal by nature.<\/p>\n<p>All the same, the experience was a good example of how patient I <em>can<\/em> be &#8211; underscored by the fact that it was with someone I had no personal connections with <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_8');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_8');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_8\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">8 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_8\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">Hence no obligation to give them extra consideration.<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_8').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_8', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script> I&#8217;m much more patient if it&#8217;s actually a friend, or someone I care deeply about.<\/p>\n<h1>Prejudice<\/h1>\n<p>I noticed that the &#8220;issue&#8221; itself also underscored a general frustration and observation I have with our [Filipino] &#8220;culture&#8221; &#8211; particularly how &#8220;unreliable&#8221; we can be. <\/p>\n<p>In this case, it was an issue of professional courtesy, and work ethic. Why the hell would he try to cut costs when I&#8217;ve already volunteered to foot the bill on materials. The only reason was to try to <em>still<\/em> make a bit more money out of the funds I gave, and not just to save face\/reputation &#8211; and <em>that,<\/em> to me, is just being plain selfish at that point.<\/p>\n<p>It happens often enough that it makes me wonder if I put too high a standard on the people I encounter? Am I expecting too much of the people around me? I guess it&#8217;s hard for me to be &#8220;fine&#8221; with, because I, despite all my &#8220;quirks,&#8221; <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_9');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_9');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_9\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">9 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_9\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">Which I assure you, are enough to turn a lot of people off<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_9').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_9', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script> am <em>still<\/em> a pretty reliable person when push comes to shove. Am I expecting too much when I end up pulling the <em>if-someone-like-me-can-do-it-why-can&#8217;t-you<\/em> card on people &#8211; at least when it comes to &#8220;basic prioritization&#8221; of anything in one&#8217;s life?<\/p>\n<p>On the flip-side, I&#8217;ve long accepted the fact that <em>shit happens<\/em> and that we are all unique in our own ways (i.e. &#8220;different strokes, different folks&#8221;) &#8211; so I guess I <em>am<\/em> expecting too much if I pursue the thought. That&#8217;s why I actively try not to &#8211; but the byproduct of that is I tend to be judgmental because of it. And it begs the question; can I help being judgmental? <em>Why shouldn&#8217;t I be?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Given how &#8220;tolerant&#8221; I already am; I&#8217;m already putting up with the crap and accepting it as it is &#8211; it doesn&#8217;t mean I have to like it. And given humans have the power to change <strong>anything<\/strong> they themselves have inflicted on others&#8230; if they don&#8217;t act on it, <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_10');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1019_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_10');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_10\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">10 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_10\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">Barring legitimately mitigating circumstances<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_10').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1019_1_10', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script> is it wrong to assume they&#8217;re less of a person because of it &#8211; at least as far as that particular issue goes?<\/p>\n<p>So if someone considers you as someone you think you&#8217;re not&#8230; and if you are affected and take issue with it, isn&#8217;t it natural to prove the person wrong? Because by <em>not<\/em> doing anything and going on with whatever &#8220;actions&#8221; you were doing that made them think that way of you &#8211; you&#8217;re essentially just proving them right. Simple as that.<\/p>\n<p>I believe that we as humans are constantly sized-up in different aspects of our &#8220;being&#8221; &#8211; there&#8217;s just no getting around that fact. The reason why I don&#8217;t mind what <em>most<\/em> people think about me is because I don&#8217;t mind being judged &#8211; because I do it too (you should be able to take whatever you can dish out).<\/p>\n<p>What &#8220;frustrates&#8221; me is when people don&#8217;t like being judged, but don&#8217;t even <em>try<\/em> fixing whatever it is that triggered that &#8220;prejudice.&#8221; So for example&#8230; to be politically incorrect, the thing about stereotyping (e.g. racism) is <em>totally fine<\/em> by me. Because while there are exceptions&#8230; it&#8217;s <em>still<\/em> mostly true &#8211; and to me, it&#8217;s <em>solely<\/em> the fault of those that represent the demographic that has been &#8220;stereotyped.&#8221; The song <em>Everyone&#8217;s a Little Bit Racist<\/em> from Avenue Q basically explains the phenomenon.<\/p>\n<p>Same goes with profiling\/stereotyping &#8211; it will happen &#8211; and the <em>only thing<\/em> that can prevent it is if the person <em>actively<\/em> proves or disproves it. And it all cycles back to <em>human effort.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Our (in)decisions truly dictate who we are<\/strong> &#8211; whether we believe it is who we are, whether we like it or not. The sooner people come to terms with thing as fundamental as <em>who they really are,<\/em> without having to complicate things by factoring in &#8220;morality&#8221; et all, the better we&#8217;ll all be.<\/p>\n<p>When I mentioned &#8220;morality,&#8221; I&#8217;m just talking in terms of prejudice &#8211; or recognizing your true worth as a person. I&#8217;m <strong>not<\/strong> saying you should or shouldn&#8217;t do anything in context of &#8220;defining&#8221; yourself &#8211; but I <strong>am<\/strong> saying that whatever it is you do (or not) <em>does<\/em> define you.<\/p>\n<p>The reason I&#8217;m &#8220;secure&#8221; with who I am is I guess I&#8217;ve come to terms with my shortcomings, and if people judge me by them, then I will accept such judgment simply because they&#8217;re probably true; and if not, I have no problems proving them wrong if need be. I&#8217;m not living my life to impress people, but to simply be accepted as I am &#8211; and if I try being someone I&#8217;m essentially <em>not<\/em> to get that affirmation, then it&#8217;s not really &#8220;the real thing&#8221; for me &#8211; because I would be lying to <em>myself.<\/em><\/p><div class=\"speaker-mute footnotes_reference_container\"> <div class=\"footnote_container_prepare\"><p><span role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" class=\"footnote_reference_container_label pointer\" onclick=\"footnote_expand_collapse_reference_container_1019_1();\">Notes<\/span><span role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" class=\"footnote_reference_container_collapse_button\" style=\"display: none;\" onclick=\"footnote_expand_collapse_reference_container_1019_1();\">[<a id=\"footnote_reference_container_collapse_button_1019_1\">+<\/a>]<\/span><\/p><\/div> <div id=\"footnote_references_container_1019_1\" style=\"\"><table class=\"footnotes_table footnote-reference-container\"><caption class=\"accessibility\">Notes<\/caption> <tbody> \r\n\r\n<tr class=\"footnotes_plugin_reference_row\"> <th scope=\"row\" class=\"footnote_plugin_index_combi pointer\"  onclick=\"footnote_moveToAnchor_1019_1('footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_1');\"><a id=\"footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_1\" class=\"footnote_backlink\"><span class=\"footnote_index_arrow\">&#8673;<\/span>1<\/a><\/th> <td class=\"footnote_plugin_text\">At least she already had done it before<\/td><\/tr>\r\n\r\n<tr class=\"footnotes_plugin_reference_row\"> <th scope=\"row\" class=\"footnote_plugin_index_combi pointer\"  onclick=\"footnote_moveToAnchor_1019_1('footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_2');\"><a id=\"footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_2\" class=\"footnote_backlink\"><span class=\"footnote_index_arrow\">&#8673;<\/span>2<\/a><\/th> <td class=\"footnote_plugin_text\">We do fight, of course &#8211; but she still has yet to see how I can be when I&#8217;m &#8220;angry&#8221;<\/td><\/tr>\r\n\r\n<tr class=\"footnotes_plugin_reference_row\"> <th scope=\"row\" class=\"footnote_plugin_index_combi pointer\"  onclick=\"footnote_moveToAnchor_1019_1('footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_3');\"><a id=\"footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_3\" class=\"footnote_backlink\"><span class=\"footnote_index_arrow\">&#8673;<\/span>3<\/a><\/th> <td class=\"footnote_plugin_text\">I would challenge that argument, but for the most part, it is true.<\/td><\/tr>\r\n\r\n<tr class=\"footnotes_plugin_reference_row\"> <th scope=\"row\" class=\"footnote_plugin_index_combi pointer\"  onclick=\"footnote_moveToAnchor_1019_1('footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_4');\"><a id=\"footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_4\" class=\"footnote_backlink\"><span class=\"footnote_index_arrow\">&#8673;<\/span>4<\/a><\/th> <td class=\"footnote_plugin_text\">At least to people who haven&#8217;t &#8220;crossed the line&#8221; &#8211; as I&#8217;ll explain later<\/td><\/tr>\r\n\r\n<tr class=\"footnotes_plugin_reference_row\"> <th scope=\"row\" class=\"footnote_plugin_index_combi pointer\"  onclick=\"footnote_moveToAnchor_1019_1('footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_5');\"><a id=\"footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_5\" class=\"footnote_backlink\"><span class=\"footnote_index_arrow\">&#8673;<\/span>5<\/a><\/th> <td class=\"footnote_plugin_text\">At least, in the practical sense<\/td><\/tr>\r\n\r\n<tr class=\"footnotes_plugin_reference_row\"> <th scope=\"row\" class=\"footnote_plugin_index_combi pointer\"  onclick=\"footnote_moveToAnchor_1019_1('footnote_plugin_tooltip_1019_1_6');\"><a id=\"footnote_plugin_reference_1019_1_6\" class=\"footnote_backlink\"><span class=\"footnote_index_arrow\">&#8673;<\/span>6<\/a><\/th> <td class=\"footnote_plugin_text\">Though I have to admit, knowing if they&#8217;re suffering gives me that warm fuzzy feeling inside &#8211; 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