{"id":1004,"date":"2010-01-23T00:53:40","date_gmt":"2010-01-22T16:53:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nargalzius.com\/blog\/archives\/2010\/01\/23\/music-personality-test\/"},"modified":"2010-01-23T00:53:40","modified_gmt":"2010-01-22T16:53:40","slug":"on-self-awareness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/archives\/2010\/01\/23\/on-self-awareness","title":{"rendered":"On self-awareness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>So I took this <a href=\"http:\/\/www.musicmint.com\/survey.php\">&#8220;personality test&#8221;<\/a> and got an <a href=\"http:\/\/www.musicmint.com\/results.php?iq=19&amp;#38;ie=5&amp;#38;who=Carlo\">&#8220;ideal&#8221; result<\/a> (else, why would I be posting it right? hahahaha). Here&#8217;s what the test claims to do:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Self-awareness is vital for creating a successful life and business. Our easy Tick Test will help you discover what makes you tick.<\/p>\n<p>How?<\/p>\n<p>A picture of &#8220;the real you&#8221; will emerge, as your intro-extroversion results are divided into three parts &#8212; thinking, social, and emotional. These are linked to your IQ factor.\nIn no time at all you&#8217;ll get a concise and helpful portrait of yourself.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>And since I&#8217;m bored and have got nothing better to do at the moment, I thought I&#8217;d just do a commentary on the whole thing hahahaha. A <em>self-reflecting commentary<\/em> if you will. Could even be one of those <em>&#8220;manual to my life&#8221;<\/em> type of posts.<!--more--><!-- \/\/ --><\/p>\n<p>A shame that the test wasn&#8217;t anything more than an entertainment thing&#8230; results like the one I got would&#8217;ve been great if it came from a really reputable &#8220;survey,&#8221; and if it wasn&#8217;t so easy to duplicate.<\/p>\n<p>For one, the results I got where the exact same results from the person I discovered it from&#8230; even more amusing is that we&#8217;ve got the same name so the results page was a carbon copy of his results.<\/p>\n<p>Secondly, in some questions, what &#8220;I&#8217;d most likely do&#8221; wasn&#8217;t included in the [multiple-choice] answers. For example, the first question was:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>A friend has borrowed a favorite book of yours. You&#8217;ve asked your friend to return it but your friend has failed to return the book. What do you do?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You tell your friend how important the book is to you and ask your friend to return it as soon as possible. <\/li>\n<li>You end the friendship because he or she has disrespected your feelings. <\/li>\n<li>You forget about it because the friendship means more to you than the book. <\/li>\n<li>You ignore your friend until the book is returned.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>What I&#8217;d most likely do is to not sweat it until it is returned; perhaps I&#8217;d even use it as an excuse to buy a new one in the even that it&#8217;s NEVER returned &#8211; but I&#8217;d never lend him\/her a book of mine ever again. But I guess the first would be the next best thing&#8230; so I chose that.<\/p>\n<p>The trouble here is all the questions were pertaining to how a situation like that would affect a friendship, whereas my answer obviously indicates that it doesn&#8217;t apply to me at all. To me it&#8217;s just like loaning money to someone; they could be your friend or not, but I simply determine if I should lend people money based on their capability of actually paying their debt &#8211; it&#8217;s nothing personal to me.<\/p>\n<p>Last and most importantly; <strong>what has all this shit got to do with MUSIC!?<\/strong> The reason I took the blasted test was I was curious if maybe they could determine what type of person I am based on the music I listen to&#8230; and I listen to just about <em>anything<\/em> &#8211; which is why I was curious as to what it could possibly &#8220;derive&#8221; from my musical selections.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, like I said, the &#8220;results&#8221; were what I&#8217;d hope to be able to claim as accurate \ud83d\ude09 And Cris took the same test and got different results which also described her accurately. So <em>maybe<\/em> there&#8217;s some proper analysis going on with the software after all.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Based on your answers, your personality has a subtle mix between <strong>introversion and extroversion;<\/strong> you balance elements of both! It&#8217;s too hard to call&#8230;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>I kinda disagree. Maybe it&#8217;s because I&#8217;m a &#8220;high functioning&#8221; introvert that they got this result (that and the whole questions not having the &#8220;answer choices&#8221; I really want). Either way, I&#8217;ve always considered myself more introverted. But hey, if they say I&#8217;m balanced, who am I to argue!<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>You have a natural empathy. You understand human motivation in the broad sense, constantly experiencing both sides of the coin within yourself.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>I guess this is where I&#8217;m different from the rest. Normally, people would look for confirmation\/affirmation of their views from others to make themselves feel better. They gravitate to souls they resonate with. The trouble with that is they fall into the whole &#8220;group think&#8221; mentality.<\/p>\n<p>One other thing I always make sure I <strong>never<\/strong> fall into is the mistake of assuming that empathy (or even sympathy) is the same as encouragement. It&#8217;s one thing to be there for a person as a shoulder to cry\/lean on, and a whole other thing to approve of their actions. Just because you understand why someone did something, it doesn&#8217;t necessarily mean you have to tolerate if if what they did was wrong. I can understand why marijuana users feel the way they do about legalizing its use (it <strong>is<\/strong> less harmful than smoking\/alcohol) but that doesn&#8217;t mean they should be allowed to blatantly break the law for their beliefs. <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1004_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1004_1_1');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1004_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1004_1_1');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1004_1_1\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">1 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1004_1_1\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">If they really must indulge, do it with discretion<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1004_1_1').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1004_1_1', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script><\/p>\n<p>The trouble with people who have done wrong with the best of intentions is that is they mistake people who are &#8220;there for them&#8221; to actually agree with what they did. That&#8217;s a deluded way to think. <\/p>\n<p>What I do is I <em>deliberately<\/em> try to find holes in my logic. Whenever I lean towards something, the first order of business is to take the opposite stance and try to punch as much holes as I can in my own arguments. I also seek out the opinions of people who I know to disagree &#8211; in order to gain a wider perspective. If I can find holes in my logic as a result, then I assume that I haven&#8217;t arrived at the &#8220;right&#8221; conclusion yet &#8211; I then re-evaluate, and see what new conclusion(s) I come up with.<\/p>\n<p>I recursively go through this process in my head (and discussions with others) until I get to a conclusion that has the least possible inconsistencies. So when people see me having a firm stance on something, it&#8217;s not because I&#8217;m stubborn&#8230; it&#8217;s simply because I&#8217;ve already racked my head long enough to see all the possible angles available to me and I probably just arrived at the <em>same<\/em> conclusion.<\/p>\n<p>When dealing with issues, I would rather not take sides, but I could and will if it can&#8217;t be helped. I found a very effective way to determine which side best to take; and it has nothing to do with right and wrong. If it was a matter of right and wrong, then it&#8217;s black and white and there&#8217;s no debate to be had. But often times issues aren&#8217;t so simple. In those &#8220;grey&#8221; cases, the process I use is not necessarily to find out who&#8217;s right or wrong, but simply assume <strong>both<\/strong> are right. <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1004_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1004_1_2');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1004_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1004_1_2');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1004_1_2\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">2 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1004_1_2\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">After all, nobody thinks their wrong, and most of the time everyone means well<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1004_1_2').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1004_1_2', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script> Instead, I look at which side is doing more harm than good; and <em>that<\/em> is something that can be determined objectively.<\/p>\n<p>And that logic\/process is usually fool-proof. Because it&#8217;s like saying <em>&#8220;Yes, you&#8217;re both right, but at this point, pound for pound&#8230; this person is doing more harm than the other.&#8221;<\/em> It&#8217;s a testable thing, a simple survey of all people involved would determine if what someone&#8217;s doing is welcome or not.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>At times you feel drawn to social activities, at others, you can happily spend time alone. You have a range of experiences that sets you apart.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Indeed! But I&#8217;m not quite sure what the second sentence meant. I&#8217;m guessing as a whole, the line is suggesting that I&#8217;m a &#8220;case-to-case basis&#8221; type of guy when it comes to social interaction.<\/p>\n<p>I welcome when people appreciate, look for, and enjoy my company&#8230; but I&#8217;m not extroverted\/insecure enough to <em>need<\/em> such affirmation (i.e. I do not kiss-ass). I&#8217;d prefer people want to be with me for who I am, not who I am <em>for<\/em> them.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>You&#8217;re sometimes misunderstood, because you can veer from one type of behavior to the other, according to your comfort level.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><em>Sometimes?<\/em> \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;d attribute it to the fact that when I&#8217;m dealing with my [personal] issues, that&#8217;s when I&#8217;m <strong>most<\/strong> introverted &#8211; so people really don&#8217;t get to know the real stories behind the &#8220;topic&#8221; &#8211; I often let other people speculate on their own, or listen to accounts from others regardless if they&#8217;re accurate or not &#8211; simply because it&#8217;s not really my problem to worry about what <em>they<\/em> think of an issue that I would rather keep to myself. <span class=\"footnote_referrer\"><a role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" onclick=\"footnote_moveToReference_1004_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1004_1_3');\" onkeypress=\"footnote_moveToReference_1004_1('footnote_plugin_reference_1004_1_3');\" ><sup id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_1004_1_3\" class=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text\">3 <\/sup><\/a><span id=\"footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1004_1_3\" class=\"footnote_tooltip\">Of course, that&#8217;s not to say that I do share once in a while when the spirit moves me<\/span><\/span><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> jQuery('#footnote_plugin_tooltip_1004_1_3').tooltip({ tip: '#footnote_plugin_tooltip_text_1004_1_3', tipClass: 'footnote_tooltip', effect: 'fade', predelay: 0, fadeInSpeed: 200, delay: 400, fadeOutSpeed: 200, position: 'top right', relative: true, offset: [10, 10], });<\/script><\/p>\n<p>Simply put, I was always of the sense that &#8220;people have got problems of their own, why should I burden them with <em>my<\/em> problems as well?&#8221;<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>You&#8217;re genuinely sociable. In fact, because of that balanced temperament, you&#8217;re uniquely suited for mixing with people. Real friendships don&#8217;t occur often, because you&#8217;re somewhat choosy about whom you&#8217;ll share your thoughts and feelings with.<\/p>\n<p>Once you make a friend, chances are, it&#8217;ll be long-term.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><code>canned response:<\/code> I&#8217;d like to think this is true, but of course this could only be confirmed (or denied) by the people around me.<\/p>\n<p>Also, some still get through my &#8220;net of discernment&#8221; by mistake now and then. Nobody&#8217;s perfect \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>A natural moderator, you can find yourself a referee between warring factions. Common sense comes naturally to you, as you tend to see both sides of an issue.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><code>canned response:<\/code> I&#8217;d like to think this is true, but of course this could only be confirmed (or denied) by the people around me.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>You&#8217;re deliberate in making important life decisions, and weigh issues carefully. Once you&#8217;ve made up your mind, a balanced perspective gives you as comprehensive a view as one is likely to get. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>I like making simulations in my head whenever I&#8217;m dealing with a dilemma\/issue. Normally, I&#8217;d attribute it as a natural temperament of any programmer, but I guess it could be likened to how women utilize their frontal lobes&#8230; the difference [from women] is that the <strong>hypothetical<\/strong> scenarios I come up with <strong>remain as such;<\/strong> they <em>rarely<\/em> affect me emotionally. 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A picture of &#8220;the real &hellip; <p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/archives\/2010\/01\/23\/on-self-awareness\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;On self-awareness&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[10,11],"tags":[896],"class_list":["post-1004","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-nonsense","category-perspective","tag-perspective"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1004","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1004"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1004\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1004"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1004"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/nargalzius.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1004"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}